Intercourse
A Message
to the "Studs" in the Audience
The term
"intercourse" means
"communication." (Surprised? Look it up!) And sexual intercourse is—or ought to
be—a very special kind of communication
between people who are special to each other. If it
isn't special, then it isn't really intercourse, but
just screwing—which, as body functions go, is
certainly pleasurable, but hardly equal to the
genuinely sensational, mind-blowing
fireworks-of-the-soul known as making love!
Any male for
whom romance boils down to nothing more than finding
his way into a comfortable vagina is missing
nine-tenths of the fun. A man who uses a woman for
what is essentially masturbation would do both
himself and the lady a favor by simply using his own
hand instead. Yes, sir! If all you're interested in
is "getting off," just grab a
"girlie" magazine and head for the john. No
muss, no fuss, no worries!
That way you
won't risk venereal disease or pregnancy. You won't
have the bother or expense of wining and dining. You
won't have to work at building a framework of love,
trust and understanding. You won't have to consider
anyone else's feelings or needs, and can focus all
your attention on your own gratification. You won't
have to trouble yourself with the sometimes
embarrassing matter of interacting with another human
being. And—best of all—if you hurry,
maybe you can get back to the TV before the
commercial break is over and your beer goes flat!
If that
describes your attitude towards sex,
"Stud," then it's no mystery that the
ladies aren't lining up at your door. This may come
as a shock to you, but women are not as apathetic
about sex as you might suppose. Most women are
sensuous, sexy creatures, dormant volcanoes of
passion waiting to erupt! But it takes a certain kind
of magic to awaken those inner fires, and that magic
is communication.
So, Chum, if
you want to be welcomed into that lovely,
warm, silken sheath, and not just tolerated
there, perhaps it's time you learned to communicate
with the lovely, warm human being who owns it! No,
it's not something you can accomplish in five
minutes. Especially if you've been acting like an
unmitigated jerk until now, it might take her a few
days just to recover from her surprise at your change
in attitude!
It takes time
and patience. And honesty (she can smell a phony)! Stop treating her as an object. She's a person,
for crying out loud! She wants—no, needs—to be a full partner in any sexual
relationship. Forget the "macho" act around
her; that adolescent crap is just to impress your
jerk buddies! Express yourself openly to her, and pay
attention to what she has to say to you. Engage her
mind, her emotions, her whole being. Let her know how
special she is to you. Let her know you crave her,
not just with your body, but with your entire soul! Kindle that magic fire within her, and she'll reward
you beyond your wildest imaginings!
=SAJ=